I wanted a mother who was like my aunt. I wanted a mother who could wisely take care ofhousehold affairs in a clean and frugal way. My aunt (father's sister) asked my mother to fulfill theduty of a 'daughter-in-law' of the JUNG family and I begged my mother to become 'an aunt-likemom'. But what does 'an aunt-like mom' really mean? When I carefully observe my mother, shewants to be a 'daughter-in-law' while simultaneously refusing to be one. Mother is extremely tornbetween the...more

I wanted a mother who was like my aunt. I wanted a mother who could wisely take care ofhousehold affairs in a clean and frugal way. My aunt (father's sister) asked my mother to fulfill theduty of a 'daughter-in-law' of the JUNG family and I begged my mother to become 'an aunt-likemom'. But what does 'an aunt-like mom' really mean? When I carefully observe my mother, shewants to be a 'daughter-in-law' while simultaneously refusing to be one. Mother is extremely tornbetween the belief that she did her duties as a daughter-in-law and the guilty feeling of being auseless woman.Now, she's on her way to the afterlife where it's comfortable with no pain. With regards to mother,we, the daughters, are not crying out for her to 'come back and stay and bear with us,' but weless